Happy Monday!

When you wake up today take a moment to just breath and think about how it is good to be alive. Vic and I woke up this morning and all I wanted to do is crawl back into bed. Not because I was wanting to just stay home, but because I really wanted to stay with Vic and enjoy just being at home. Happy Mondays are not only about going out an tackling your goals for the day. Happy Monday can be about just doing anything you want to mentally keep you healthy.

Doggy Heaven for Maggie

Do you ever stop to think what your pets teach you? Do you ever wonder what they say or think when they see you and patiently wait for you at home? Recently a very wonderful and loved dog has passed away. Maggie...She was loved, she lived a good life and she died in piece at 17 years of age. But have you ever stop to think or appreciate how a pet comforts you when the world just does not seem to agree with you? That kitty or puppy that sits all day at home waiting for you. The most exciting day is for you to just come through the door and love them. They do not judge, they do not hate, they do not take sides...they just unconditionally love you for loving them. Sometimes life would be so easy if we just were like our pets, which are also family. So next time you come home and you have had a bad day or just need love, don't forget that your cat or dog has been waiting all day to just see you and be with you.

Thanks Maggie for 17 years of being an amazing dog and great memories.

After The O&V Summer Wedding 2010

The Summer of 2010 was full of surprises in many good ways. Vic and I had our Wedding Ceremony, and we were surrounded by amazing people that we consider friends. The best part is how everyone was so respectful and supporting of our union, not to mention those friends and family who came out of town to support this great day! Of course just like any wedding there were things here and there that needed to be fixed or fell apart, but hey what wedding goes without a few miss happens. What was truly important was remembering that Vic and I were ready to just be with each other for the rest of our lives. Ready to be happy with each other, ready to get mad, and make-up(make out) after our disagreements, ready to build a home together and ready to take over the world together! Never was there a doubt in our minds that we wanted each other, but what there was is miss communication, and sometimes being in a relationship we have remember that communication even when you do not agree is important. Many people in the world sit there and work extremely hard to analyze relationships by writing a book or seeing a therapist. Yeah, this is all good, but these are just tools and in the end it is the two people in a relationship that need to utilize these tools and apply them to their personal relationship to make them work. Everyone is unique and everyone can be the same, or even follow the same pattern in relationships. This is because we are creatures of habits. Some of us have to awaken to realize that a relationship is an investment of life, and you have to invest time, understanding, happiness, sadness, anger, and create memories. People have asked both Vic and I 'if marriage life feels different?' Well, for me it does, because you begin to realize how now it is not about the insecurity of a relationship, but how do we reach all our goals united as one? Things have been really great for Vic and I after the wedding. We have learned to be a lot more selfish with our time, and how we utilize our day. Just an advice, it is OK to say no because you need time to be with your partner, and it is OK to be selfish with your lover, boyfriend, husband, best friend, and enjoy quality time together. Vic and I have date night one or two times a week no matter what, just to block the world away, and focus on us. This works for us and maybe you and your other half should think, "what would work for us, just to get away from the world?"

All the Reasons to Celebrate 32 Years of Life

All the Reasons to Celebrate 32 Years of Life:

• On June 18th, 1978 Omar Antonio Raudez was born right at the same time that Nicaragua was having an earthquake. On that day my father had to help the doctor deliver me do to the lack of help.
• When The President of Nicaragua was assassinated and the Sandinistas invaded Nicaragua my parents decided to take me and my brother Edward away from the chaos.
• I did not become one of the many 7 year old boys that were taken by force from their homes to join the Nicaraguan military
• When I came to the U.S. I was lucky enough to start school and continue my life.
• I Survived an abusive father that once upon a time was also an alcoholic.
• When I was little I would put my mom to bed after she passed out from drunkenness
• When I was 16 years old I survived the biggest fight with my father when he found out I was a homosexual.
• I learned to work 12 hours shifts at 16 years of age and provide food and shelter for myself, but it caused me to drop out of school my sophomore year in high school.
• I learned to survive and grew up much faster than most kids my age.
• I came across many people in Houston that helped me always stay on my toes and on top of life even if I had to work three jobs to make things work.
• In Houston I met Rick Schroder and Victor Gomez who brought me out of a dark place in my life.
• I was given a second chance to go back to school and have hopes once more for a better future.
• I was accepted into college, and I was the first in my family to go to college out of my brothers.
• I met Victor and he decided to join me on my new journey to Idaho.
• Rick Schroder gave me the amazing opportunity to believe again in people and in a better future.
• Rick also taught me that you cannot choose your family, but you can choose your friends.
• Victor Gomez taught me patience
• In Idaho I have met people that now have become mine and Vic's family.
• I have health, I have love, I have patience, I have people that I call true family, I have hope, I have goals, I have dreams, I have strength, I have the will to live, I have the choice to continue to move forward and learn from my mistakes and fix them as I go.
• I have Victor Gomez and he has me.

So next time you think you are getting too old, or you think where has the time gone, try to think of all the reason why you should be thankful. There are many others who cannot celebrate the way those of us can, we should embrace our years of life with full force, and share that embrace with those who need it.

Thank you 32 Years!

Love ,

Omar Antonio Raudez

A PerFect Day

There is hope when your closest friends get together with to enjoy 5 Years of knowing each other. A week or two ago, I was disappointed with Pocatello for how they treat their fellow gays, but a perfect day like yesterday was enough to give me hope and make me smile more than we have in a while.

Vic and I decided to put all aside and go out and prepare things for our grand day along with 3 of our closest and most cherish friends. The wonderful thing was that as the day went it just got better, and I felt happier, and full of life. First stop was the Tuxes at Pine Ridge Mall. It was a hilarious view when we saw the lady's face after she heard it was two Grooms, she would be fitting! Her mouth dropped... but what was wonderful is that by the end of the fitting the ladies were loving it. They finally realized we were just normal people having a union. After the tuxes, we had an appointment with the florist LD. This was an amazing experience! Victor was very excited to pick out his bouquet, and to pick all the floral arrangements for the groom's men and maids of honor. LD was a gem and a wonderful host, so much that he is coming to the wedding! Thank you LD!!!The last thing we did was run around and get minor things such as the champagne flutes, guest book, and all the little things needed.

Angie, Jamie, Bridget, Greg, and Uncle plus the two of us decided to go and have a nice Wine and Appetizers at Past Vino. It was nice, very nice. We never felt better then at that moment, with close friends that love us. Then we were off to First Nash, where we continued to celebrate love, friendship, our anniversary, and a great time with good family! This day was A Perfect Day! Thank you Angie, Jamie, Bridget, Greg, and Uncle for making May 19th, 2010 A Perfect Day for us. You all made us feel like we truly have family here, you made us feel the love that our real families lacked to give us because of who we truly are as individuals! We love you guys!

Five Years of Us

We never expected to be here. I remember when Victor said to me, "It has been 6 months! Let's go celebrate!" And I said, " I don't celebrate in months, i celebrate in years". Vic to asked me why, and told him that months are nothing to years, and since my last relationship was 3 years, I was not going to be easy to impressed. Five years later of meeting Victor...I am impressed, because he has found a way into my heart. He has figuered me out when no one else could in the past. He became the other part of me that enabled my heart to feel warmth again. I at one point felt men were not all good, and there were few who were good. i had given up on looking for the those who were good, but then Victor came along and he gave me a light like no other. He gave me a light that gave me hope in love. I mean I think that over all He gave me more than hope he gave me the light to love again, to understand that all mean were no hopeless, helpless, or dirt bags.

2010 & Thoughts

It has been a while since we have blogged, but so much shit, crap, bullshit has happened since. You think you know your own way through the path you take, but no matter how sure we are about the path we took, there is always a chance we could be wrong. Vi and I broke up, and it was the last thing anyone expected. Especially Vic and O, but what was worth is thatI noticed how people either supported us through our grief or just fed off the drama, or simply the situation. This was a bad moment in 2009. But out of all this came two engagement rings, and a stronger bond between the both of us! What does this hold for 2010? Things will get interesting since both of us have returned to our selves and began to have a stronger since on how o protect our relationship and how to be selfish as lovers! I think it is time for the world to stand back and watch us not fall apart, but instead grow stronger. 2010.... Or should I call the year where it will all be expected to be a 10!